Hello, I have been living with my mother since my split with my husband. Me and her are not getting along in fact she has already thrown me and my kids out once. A friend of mine who I have known since grade school, was kind enough to offer to let me live with her, at her home in Longview Texas. I have absolutely no money, and two small boys who are my life, I also have one dog that needs to move with me...I have very few possessions, but a little more than i could take with me on a greyhound bus. I cannot leave anything behind, because what i do have is necessities for my children and myself. Can anyone please let me know of any organizations, or assistance programs in phoenix arizona i can possibly get help getting moved to Texas, sometime next week. This is a dire emergency, I really need the help and don't know who to call for help....thank you for your answers I am 25, my boys are under five years of age, i have asked all my friends, and all my family, my mother is being totally insane and throwing me and her grandkids out because i dont like the way she treats them...so she would never give me a vehicle, and anyway I cant drive! and even if i could borrow a car, i couldnt afford the gas to get there....but again i cant drive..... Look, I want to go to Texas from Arizona, im already in Arizona. My friend in Texas offered because she has a large home, and two kids of her own *twins*, she loves children and grew up in a very large family so i dont think my kids will be an issue. I have a job waiting for me in Texas, I am not lazy and I currently am working but gave my notice due to this move. I am neither drinking or on drugs thank you! I havent messed with anything like that since i was a teenager. My dog will be in my friends backyard with her dog, so my dog wont be a problem either. Basically this a roomate situation, I will be paying her rent and supporting myself there, just need to get there! I am not lazy nor am i freeloading off my mother. I left my ex husband who beat me and hit my eldest son one time, and that day i called my mom and told her i was coming to arizona. Everything that me and my children use, eat, or wear is payed for by me...without a dime of child support from my deadbeat ex, and my mother doesnt pay my way either. I wont be leaching off of my friend, nor am i putting my "Mess" onto someone else....My mother is upset with me because i confronted her for her constant screaming at her grandson, and my mother fighting with my step dad constantly, and they will fight when the kids are in the room, im constantly having to stay in my room because i dont want my children exposed to more violence after what they just went through with thier dad. My children have no friends here, because thier father kept us locked in the house for five long years, and was extreemly controlling. This is a step up in the best interest of my childrens welfare. oh yeah, by the way the only family i have here in Arizona is my mom and distant cousins. The rest of my family is in texas, or other states. My friends cant drive me to texas not because they dont want to, its because they cant work around their work and college schedules to make time, otherwise they would take me in a heartbeat. I have spoken with my mother numerous times about trying to settle our differences in a calm and rational manner, but she refuses to work for a mutually agreeable solution to this argument between us. She is not mad at me for freeloading, which i dont do; in fact i have been paying her mortgage, cleaning her house, and even at times doing her own job for her on top of mine *she works from home*. I am a college educated woman, that payed my own way through school cause my mom was too broke, she spent her money shopping. I take excellent care of my children, in fact total strangers remark on how well behaved my kids are, and how polite they are. I dont know where some of you got the notion that I was some white trash, podunk, freeloadin bitch, livin on welfare and mama, and draggin my kids around....That is the polar oppiset of who i am. I am a hard working and independant woman. I was a stay at home mom for five years, and devoted myself to my kids *my husband wouldnt let me work*, since moving down here i immediatly got a job, and supported myself and payed my mothers bills as thank you for allowing me to stay with her. She told me to move in here, and when i told her i found an apartment, she flipped out saying i couldnt move out. I have severe back problems and could be living on disability but i'd rather work, and earn my way through life....so please before you judge try to be more understanding, and find out about a person before you slander them.
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Not sure of any organizations that do that but you could check craig's list for your area. maybe someone is heading down there and could help you out with a ride. good luck.
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shyt cant u have your frend drive u? or barrow his/her car or u can POSIBLY get good with your mom again and barrow her car how old r the kids im 13 and im saving up to go see my Gma and bros and sis's MILES away from me. good luck tho if the kids are old enough then they could possibly help pay if not then im srry (iv ALWAYS helped my mom work ever since VERY yung childhood) good luck one this one
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Being logical your friend will only take you for a few weeks to come to the realization that your kids are a pain in the butt and your dog is unnecessary in her house. She will not keep you long. You are better staying close to your family so they can help in an emergency. Find the father of your kids their grandparents! Be practical stay in Texas you already know the people, where everything is, you know were to find work. Moving to Arizona is another one of your mistakes. You have a lot of explaining to do to your kids. Let them keep their friends too. Use the following source, and stop drinking and using drugs.
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Why don't you just go to a shelter. You need to stand on your own 2 feet. living with someone else just gets awful. You don't need to move all the way to Texas just to get a job. Do it right here in Az. You have no money because you have no job. I am sure if you sat your mom down and talked to her you could work something out. there are plenty of jobs in Phx. Plenty of single parents do it everyday. My mom moved us 4 girls to Phx from Mass. She had 3 waitress jobs. No child support. It was hard...but she did it.
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What about a sense of pride? What about a sense of urgency about providing for your children? Quit being a wart on the butt of society and step up to the obligations you have taken on. There is probably a good reason your mother has had enough of you. Take a long hard look at your situation. Since you have been with your mother as a freeloader what have you done to get your life together? If you can't support your family and are not actively working toward taking care of that problem please don't be a burden to your friend, the only one left to put up with your BS. Get the dog a new home and the kids too if you have no intention of being a mother to them. They deserve more. It would be easy for people to get you hooked up with some charity or someone you can snow into taking care of your mess. The best help is getting you to realize that you have more opportunity than a huge percentage of the people in this world and you are asking for someone else to make it all happen. Be thankful for whatever you do have and be responsible. If you insist on making the move wait until you can afford to do so without being a burden to your friend. That will be very temporary.
